29 When you talk, don’t say anything bad. But say the good things that people need—whatever will help them grow stronger. Then what you say will be a blessing to those who hear you.
The first CHIMA cake that I made collapsed. We were all so disappointed. Gab was so kind to console this exhausted mummy that it was ok to go without a cake. I really hate to disappoint him. So jie jie n I managed to come out with this idea using Gab's CHIMA toys instead!
After the celebration, Gabriel hugged me a lot. He seemed to understand that mummy had tried her best to 'saved' his cake. Though it did not meet his expectation, he appreciates a lot. I could see it in his eyes his thankfulness! With that, it warmed my heart, my last effort to do something after the collapse of the cake. I wanted to give up n just go without a cake. Or maybe I could rush out to but him a cake. After a short SOS prayer, I went ahead with that contingency plan with Val! Very thankful to God that we pulled through. Not the best but it portrayed our persistence to cheer Gab up! And most importantly , with God things are possible!!!
Gab had ulcers in his mouth yesterday. So brought him to see GP and confirmed he has HFMD! 😬😬
Since we can't go out, I told him :"Son, let's spend time together. " He replied:" Sure! But wait, let me on the TV." 😐😐
This is so MAN!!!!!
5 Those who sow with tears
will reap with songs of joy.
6 Those who go out weeping,
carrying seed to sow,
will return with songs of joy,
carrying sheaves with them.
My husband and I were raised in typical Chinese homes where affection is rare and often justified that their love is unspoken.
When I first arrived Canada, my lecturer gave me the first best bear hug that calmed my anxiety and fear! Then I received tons over there that build me up! I felt love very tangibly!
Soon, I learn that spoken words of love and affirmation have tremendous power and positive effect in our lives! So I actively asked my hubby all the time and he never fail to assure me, though it started awkwardly and reluctantly. Gradually, we will always spontaneously say 'I love u!" to each other in our family! And we started this tradition of actively asking for '抱抱！' when our battery is low! Even Gab will run to me for hugs! And I chuckled when I saw how 'charged!' he was and how he continued his play time with his tank full of love and assurance.
Do we say 'I love you' enough in our homes?? Even if we were not raised in an expressive environment, we can be the ones to start a new tradition. Let not our family upbringing or past stop us from actively expressing love and encouragement. We have the power to affect our family line for generations and leave a legacy of warmth, love and kindness!
Now my kids are natural with kiss n hugs. But if we were passive .... This 'coldness' goes on.... N they explained that their parents are like this too...
