Increase your love bank units

I have been reading this excellent book by Dr Harley about Fall in love and Stay in Love.

According to him, "Being in love is vital to a happy marriage. And it's "a feeling that can be sustained indefinitely," says Dr. Willard Harley as long as the right conditions are met. In Fall in Love, Stay in Love he outlines those conditions and shows you how to meet them in your marriage.

He used the illustration of a love bank. We deposit love units when we meet each other's emotional needs and make withdrawals when we don't. According to him, there are 10 cruical emotional needs. It is usually during the courtship days that love units are deposited consistently when we meet each other's emotional needs and love busters are avoided at all cost to prevent unneccessary withdrawal of love units. And sad to say that many married couples start to make frequent withdrawals till they suddenly realise their love units for each other are depleting. This book gives me a wake up call about how we usually take each other for granted as the years passed by and allow our love busters to destroy marriage. This book affirms my belief that marriage needs CONSCIOUS effort to make it still romantic, loving and alive!

I must say My dear ah lao has recently deposited lots of love units when he waited for me at the pavilion with a bouquet flower. WOW!! I was really touched by this unexpected romantic gesture. Thank you for that lovely surprise.