My 2009 resolution

This year is our 10th year of marriage. We have grown so much together and gone through so much life stages together. Life used to be ONLY US, then came our first born, then the second and now the number three. So marriage seems more complicated than before. Our past upbringings, education and experiences have pre shaped our parenting attitudes and expectations that we differ so much. NOW we have EVEN more conflicts and differences than before.........Marriage becomes more complex when our children are competing for our attention, love and everything else.

I strongly believe that in order to provide a stable, loving and secure family, we must first love our spouses, our first love. Our children would suffer psychologically if we aren't loving. In fact, it is very detrimental for their psychological well being if we "fight" all the time. Children strive when they find security knowing their parents are committed to work hard to make their marriage work. After our recent frequent outburst of "verbal wars", I realised our first born is nervous, uptight and upset when we raised our voice at one another as both of us were under more stress than ever. So now, I want to make sure that I invest equally much in my marriage too cos it we will lose ALOT MORE if we failed our marriage.

Endevaour to maximize my husband's strengths and minimize his weakness; to fall in love with the man I marry IS MY THIS YEAR'S 2009 RESOLUTION

I want to learn to appreciate my husband's qualities that drew me to him and learn that he shows love to me in a different way. I plan to REread at least 10 books about marriage this year and make it work! MARRIAGE is a HARD work and I dun believe happiness JUST COME LIKE THAT!! A blissful marriage takes effort, time, money and willingness to make it work. And I know God has to be part of this restoration as well!!!